Are You Suffering Because Of Someone Else's Mental Illness?
When a person is in the grip of mental illness, they may not always realize the havoc they are reeking on the lives of those around them. Of course, it can be a tough situation for a carer, or loved one because they want to be there as much as possible, but also have to set boundaries that allow them to care for themselves as well. To that end, if this is a situation you find yourself in you may discover some helpful strategies for coping when someone close is suffering from one of the more common conditions below.
OCD is a little bit more than wanting things to be clean and neat. In fact, it is a disorder marked by repetitive, disturbing intrusive thoughts that require compulsion to neutralize them. In essence is it a disorder of doubt and this can make sufferers very unsure of themselves in certain situations. Usually, as a reaction to this, they will seek reassurance in different ways. Often asking those around them to confirm that they have indeed turned off a plug, locked the front door, or not run over someone with their car. Sadly for a person with OCD reassurance reinforces the problem, and it can also be maddening for that those that have to provide it as well.
To that end, if someone you love or are caring for is suffering from OCD, then its best reduce and then stop all forms of reassurance. Something that means you can no longer be used as part of the obsessive process which should be good for both you and the sufferer.
Another condition that can have a significant impact on people close to the sufferer is narcissism. This is a personality disorder that is all about self-obsession, with a distinct inability to emphasize or feel compassion for anyone one else.
In fact, it is quite a common disorder, and there are many examples of famous narcissists throughout history, as well as in the current public eye. Sadly, for those close to the narcissist there is often little to be done then withdraw your attention and time.
You could suggest that they get help but because of the nature of the condition narcissists are unlikely to be compliant, or use the fact that it is a disorder to manipulate those close to them further. Something that often leads many who are at the hand of a narcissist to cease contact once and for all.
If you have depression, simple daily tasks can be incredibly difficult. Getting out of bed, making breakfast, or showering can seem like climbing a mountain. However, if you are close to someone that has depression, this can seriously affect how you feel as well.
After all, depressed people are often likely to do less, which can reduce your social interaction as well. Also, the worry about someone that is the deep throes of a depressive episode where symptoms such as self-harm, staying in bed for days at a time, and even suicidal ideation can occur; is massive.
To that end, it can be hugely beneficial for those supporting someone with depression to prioritize self-care, as well as seek emotional help and support outside of that relationship to make it easier to cope.