How To Handle Losing a Loved One Unexpectedly
Of all the things in life that we can experience, none are as sorrowful as losing someone close to us. And of course, this sadness is only compounded if we lose them unexpectedly. While the death of a close friend or family member will always be devastating, there’s at least something to be said for being able to process the loss slightly better if we knew it was coming. Untimely deaths feel different, and invite a different set of emotions. Below, we take a look at a few useful coping tips to help you get through the tough period.
Listen to your Emotions
Our emotions can play havoc with us at the best time. When we lose someone, they go into overdrive. Nothing will make sense, and even if there is a window when things do begin to become clear, we won’t like the insight that we have. However, to help us cope and to carry on with day to day life, it’s important that we pay attention to our emotions. When the time is right, it’ll be time to get in tune with them and try to make sense of how we’re feeling. Keep in mind that emotions are healthy, but that they don’t need to dictate our lives.
Reach Out to Others
When you’re trapped in your own head, it can feel like you’re the only person in the world. But you’re never alone, and especially so when you’ve lost someone close to you. There will be dozens of other people who are also going through the same thing, and then many, many more who are willing to help you through the tough time. So don’t bottle things up; reach out, and let others help you. In turn, you’ll also be helping them move forward, too.
Keep an Eye on the Essentials
You won’t want to confront life for a while, but it’s important that you keep on top of life admin, both personal and in relation to the recently departed. There will be funerals to arrange, and if the death was unexpected and the fault of someone else, you might need to solicit legal representation. You don’t need to face these things alone; you can divide the responsibilities with other people, too. On a personal level, make sure you’re arranged cover from work, that you pay your bills, and that you’re looking after yourself.
Knowing When Things Get Serious
Unfortunately, the heavy toll of the loss may pose a serious problem, in yourself or a friend or family member. If you or anyone else is struggling to cope, then reach out to professionals. They’re trained to help people move past hardships in life.
Honour Their Memory
Finally, it’s important that you try to think of the positive aspects of your recently departed loved one. You were privileged to know them, and remembering this will make it easier to think of all the good times you’ve shared. Move forward as they would have wanted you to move forward, and in time, you’ll be OK.