4 Good Reasons for Not Being in a Relationship

4 Good Reasons for Not Being in a Relationship

Society is quite simply obsessed with pairing people up. Being single is often seen as an enforced state to be in, rather than a personal choice. It’s this obsession with being part of a couple that makes people feel like they are missing out by not having met ‘the one.’ 

Nowadays, the idea of a knight in shining armor coming along to rescue you, is well, erm, extremely outdated, and probably not that appealing. You see, being single actually offers tons of benefits. Most of the negatives of being single are due to other people’s perceptions of life as a singleton. All those well-meaning, but offensive comments such as, ‘never mind, I’m sure the right guy/girl for you will come along soon,’ are so unhelpful. Worse still, is the uninvited matchmaking. Where friends pair you up with some random, who works in their office/is their boyfriend’s second cousin twice removed. However, aside from these setbacks caused by the well-intentioned, but misguided opinions of friends and family, being single actually rocks. Here are some of the reasons why you don’t need a relationship:

No Compromises

Being in a relationship is all about compromise. Compromise stretches from settling on where to go for dinner and what movie to watch, through to whose family you spend Thanksgiving with. In short, where compromise is involved in a decision, no one is likely to be truly happy. 

Of course, not being in a relationship means fewer compromises and more decisions that suit you. Oh, and as a bonus no in-laws to deal with either! It’s a win-win situation!


Unless you are in an unhealthy relationship with a controlling partner, you are going to have the freedom to make your own choices. But, being single brings a whole new level of freedom, where you can make your decisions without having to bear in mind considerations for a significant other. Instead, the choices are yours, and yours alone.

No Commitments

Being single enables you to have fun, but without the commitment that comes from a relationship. You can go on dates with no strings attached, and use services such as and have fun without putting a relationship at risk.

Self Care

Not being in a relationship with another person allows you to work on the most important relationship of all; your relationship with yourself. Not being in a relationship is the perfect time to reconnect with yourself, especially if this is the first time you have been single for quite a while.

Being single is the ideal opportunity to work through any issues you have been experiencing, without influence from anyone else. It is the time for rediscovering what you love to do and what you don’t like so much. Focusing on nurturing yourself and discovering more about who you are right now is an excellent reason for not being in a relationship.

Feeling comfortable in your own company and rediscovering how independent and resilient you can be is a truly liberating and empowering experience.

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