When Your Anger Cannot Wait
If you have yelled at a vending machine that would not give you your favorite cola drink, then that’s an indication that you ought to take a seat and consider your anger levels. The thing about anger is it has a habit of popping up at the most of inconveniencing times. It almost entirely feels like that your life does not choose when and how it will fall apart. You are just left with the pieces and a slight embarrassment for all the yelling you did.
Past anger is toxic. As a human traversing the earth, it is likely that you have it to varying levels. What remains true is the anger has a direct effect on your body physical body. Beyond that, however, there is the experience that you have that makes you realize that you are angry not just at the vending machine. There is just some way that the voluntary disclosure sales person talked to you that made you that set you off for the remainder of the day.
Stereotypes like the “angry black woman” aim to dampen the reality that most women experience daily. Anger is not based on social class, race or other attributes. Anger comes about when we feel a sort of injustice has occurred to us. The issue is we are never quite taught how to express it, let alone feel it when we are in our heightened state.
Articles talk about taking deep breaths and working on mindfulness, but when hot rage takes over you, there is not much you can do. The most we can do is hope that we did not burn bridges and get forced to a life of solitary confinement because we could not get our anger in check. However, there is a worthy lesson when it comes to anger that we ought to learn.
There is anger that drives change, and there is that that fuels the very thing we are angered about. If you are in the latter category, it is likely that your anger is working against you. Should you feel that way that should be a sign to stop and evaluate where you’re at. The idea that you sent your life angry at things that you were to heal from and live the glorious life that you always envisioned.
Work to make your anger dignified. Speaking your truth makes others follow in tow. Finding out your anger brought about an anticipated social change is what we live for. What more when we purpose to make a difference because we are angry. There is a need to transcend the stereotype of what it is to be angry and let ourselves be catalysts for change with our feelings — especially women.