Fly Free: Having The Power To End A Relationship
We all get that feeling from time to time, but we push it deep into the pit of our stomach and let it slide. Ending a relationship is something that we either do quickly, or we take a long time and deliberate over it. Each and every one of us has our reasons for ending a relationship, but is there a good time, and why do we agonize so much over it, especially when we know it's not doing us any good?
Because we, invariably, try to see the good in people, even if they aren't treating us right, these feelings could override any other sense of logic. Ending a relationship where there is some form of abuse or bullying is more difficult because we refuse to feel that we've been belittled. This isn't just in relation to physical abuse, but emotional abuse is far more commonplace. Domestic violence is real, and we can see it, and something that can be physically tested, through a criminal defense lawyer and court cases, and all of the other legal parameters. When it's emotional or psychological abuse, we're not as forthcoming to admit our weaknesses.
But here's the thing, emotional damage is far more long-lasting. This may be the equivalent of teaching your grandmother to suck eggs, but when you are in a relationship where you are being undermined, you don't see it. It's that age-old cliché, you can give the advice to people, because you can see it from an outside perspective, but it's happening to you, you treat it differently, you justify it in some way.
And, of course, the further into a relationship we get, we are digging ourselves in deeper and deeper. It's far more difficult to climb out of the hole, especially with pets, children, and all of these other things of life. It's at that point we make concessions, and neglect our own emotional needs, but it's a hurdle we all have to jump over. The great thing now is that a lot of people are not willing to tolerate it any further, which is fantastic. But there are still some of us who feel that the greater good prevails over our own health, mentally or physically.
We agonize over ending a relationship, regardless of how long it's been going on for. And while it shows you have a conscience, there are times when you have to put yourself above the needs of the other person. It's not something that will go away, but as relationships are something many people are actively avoiding, either due to the fact that they are too busy in life, or they actually don't want one, we're seeing a shift away from those so-called essentials in life. Sometimes, we don't feel that we can survive without someone else in our lives, but there are many people now that are choosing to be on their own. And so, is it time for us to go away from the clichéd family values, and the fact that we need someone to make us happy? Because, if you are in a relationship with someone and you are feeling undermined, or inferior, it's time to fly free.