Relationship Myths That Need to Be Busted
Relationships can be difficult. We receive so much conflicting advice about how they should and shouldn’t work, how we should and shouldn’t act. Some of these taboos are not only confusing, but downright harmful to a relationship. It’s time to dispel some of these relationship myths and see them for what they really are- absolute rubbish!
Cheating Means it’s Over
Perhaps the biggest relationship taboo of all- cheating. As far back as biblical times, cheating, or adultery as it would have been called, is a massive moral no-no. These views have prevailed and in today’s society we still view betrayal as one of the biggest moral sins you can commit. It is not true, however, that no relationship survives after such a betrayal. ‘A leopard never changes it’s spots’ is a common phrase that is bandied around, and one which simply isn’t true. Everybody has the capacity to change, and it is an outdated opinion to suggest otherwise. Does that mean everybody should be given another chance, absolutely not. Just don’t allow societal pressure to dictate how you deal with betrayal in your own relationship.
Counseling is for People in Bad Relationships
If you do go to relationship counseling you might find yourself reluctant to tell your friends. Most of us don’t want people to think there’s something ‘wrong’ with our relationship. The stigma attached to counseling forces many of us into silence. The common misconception is that counseling is for people with problems. This just isn’t the case. Counseling is for those who want help with communicating, infidelity, marriage, sexual problems, and much much more. So many people go to counseling to strengthen a relationship rather than repair it. No one should be afraid to admit to having relationship therapy and counseling. It is an invaluable tool which is there to be used.
You have to Label your Relationship
Labeling relationships can be so tempting, but often restricts us. Certain expectations come into play where you go from ‘friends’ to ‘dating.’ These expectations can become draining on both parties, who just want to have a natural organic relationship like they had before. Labeling relationships can also cause us to panic if we feel we’ve overly committed. If you’re happy with your relationship and don’t feel the need to label yourself, then don’t. Nobody else needs to understand the situation, as long as you do. Being happy and feeling respected and cared for are more important than any labels.
Being in a Relationship Isolates you
Your best friends may have to get used to you sharing your time between everybody. However, being in a relationship does not signal the end of friendship. In fact your friends will be more important than ever. No doubt they’ll crash dates, be a shoulder to cry on, and celebrate the great moments with you. A new relationship is exciting, but don’t let it become all consuming. Your partner wants you to be happy and ultimately so do your friends. So don’t think that a new relationship means old ones have to suffer.