What Comes After A Breakup?
Breakups are never easy, are they? What comes after those four dreaded words - I want to breakup, is weeks of crazy emotions. From tears and tantrums to anger and confusion, breakups wreak havoc on your mindset. They can turn even the strongest and most independent women into blubbering messes who refuse to leave their beds for days at a time. The first part of breakups aside - aka the emotional upset, there’s also a second part of breaking up and that’s working out your next move. Want to know how to do that - then keep reading.
Decide if you want him back
Once the initial stage of constant crying and eating copious amounts of your favorite ice cream is over, you then need to decide if you want him back. You can’t do this in the first stages of a breakup because your mind will be too muddled - you’ll be missing him but that doesn’t mean you want him back.
You need time to think to determine whether you do actually want to get back together or whether you’d be happier if you moved on. If you’re in need of a little ex boyfriend advice, it’s worth having a browse online. There are plenty of sites that are packed full of handy information for making breakups easier to deal with. As well as sites that have all the advice you need to get your ex back.
Once you know what you want - aka to move on or get him back, you can then start to move your life forward. It might be hard but with the right steps, you can get your life back on track. It can take time after a breakup to get yourself sorted, especially if you and your ex lived together.
Don’t worry about how long it will take you to get things back on track, simply focus on moving forward. Whether that means house-hunting for a new home or remodelling the one you already have, take your time. There’s no rush; you need to move on at your own pace.
Create a list of goals
Once you’ve got yourself back on track, the next step is to create a list of goals. The chances are that you had things that you wanted to achieve before you broke up with your partner - these don’t have to change. Create a list of your dreams for the future so that you have something to work towards.
Whether they’re career, family or personal goals, it doesn’t matter. What’s important is that you have something to aim for and work towards. You’ll find that moving on and making the most of your life post-breakup much easier if you have something to aim for.
Breakups are never easy to deal with but if you take the advice above on board, you can make them more manageable. Life doesn’t have to end just because your relationship did and it’s important to realise that. There’s plenty to look forward to, regardless of whether you’re single or not.