How We Keep Their Memory Alive - Memorials For Lost Loved Ones
Traditions are an important part of everyday life. They help us celebrate what’s great about our culture and remember our history. They also help us cope with the more difficult parts of life, however. The death of a loved one is, at the least, a life changing event. We are forced to cope with a void in our life, the likes of which it seems impossible to fill. There are ways and traditions that we can use to at least make this difficult time easier, however. If you don’t know how you can possibly begin to move on from a loss, our tips could help you.
A place just for them
Memorials are an important part of not only helping us move on. They are also how we give our loved ones a legacy beyond ourselves. Impacting the world can be our way of offering tribute to them. There are all kinds of ways to do it, too. For example, one can choose a location, perhaps one that their loved one was particularly fond of. Leaving a memorial plaque on a bench or a pillar can give them a place where they will always belong. It can also help give you a feeling of having done something for them after their passing, which can help that feeling of helplessness.
Growing a legacy
Plaques are not the only traditional way of remembering those near and dear to us. Many are opting these days to plant a tree in the memory of a loved one. There is something cathartic about the idea of taking a tragedy and putting the energy from that into the creation of new life. It sustains the idea that our lives are part of a cycle. It also gives us something to watch grow, always with the memory of those we miss.
Taking the time to remember
The most important part of tradition when it comes to honouring those who have passed could be the memorial service. Whether it’s a religious function or just a gathering between friends to remember, they have more than a ceremonial value. It helps to bring context to what can seem like a mindless period in our lives. It nourishes acceptance and focuses on being happy with our memories instead of focusing on our losses. Most importantly, it brings a community together, that can share in the burden of coping with bereavement.
Honour them by helping others
Mourning is important, but vital to us is that we must, at some point move on. Being stationary with our grief or trying to ignore it can only make this process all the harder. We must take the steps forward and put our energies to new positives. One of the best ways of doing just that is doing good in the name of those we have lost. Donating in memoriam is a great way to not only move on yourself. It can organise the community in mourning by turning their grief into something positive in the world. This way you can really honour the motivations and wishes of those you are mourning.